You are lovable, worthy, and enough — regardless of your behavior or the behavior of others.
There is no one less than or greater than you. There are only people at different stages of healing and remembrance.
Hurtful behavior — in yourself or others — is not an indicator of unworthiness, but of pain and unhealed perception.
When someone attacks, lies, self-sacrifices, self-harms, shuts down, violates boundaries, or acts destructively, it indicates that they are hurting and do not know what to do.
The same is true when you do these things.
These behaviors are not evidence that anyone is bad, broken, or unlovable — they are indicators that something needs healing.
You are not responsible for anyone else’s thoughts, emotions, or actions.
You are fully responsible for your own:
Taking responsibility for your inner world is the foundation of freedom.
No one can make you angry, sad, or anxious.
Your emotional experience is created by your perception of events, not by events themselves.
Your experience changes when perception changes.
Suffering ends when perception shifts from fear and judgment to love and compassion.
All thoughts, actions, emotions and expressions arise from one of two places:
People express only love or a call for love — including you.
The appropriate response to either is love:
Sometimes we attach meaning to things that are not actual expressions HMT calls this:
VOIE- Void Of Intentional Expression.
Somone's elses expression or VOIE is never an indication of your worth or lovability.
Attack is never justified — toward yourself or toward others.
All attack is ultimately self-attack.
Guilt, shame, blame, and self-judgment are forms of attack that:
Healing requires the release of attack in all forms.
When you or another person is triggered — through anger, sadness, or anxiety — the core belief underneath is a fear of not being lovable or enough.
A fight is two people feeling unloved.
Triggers are not failures; they are opportunities for healing and correction.
Boundaries and gentle correction are acts of love.
Boundaries say:
“I love you enough to take action within my control to prevent behavior that, if you were more healed, you would not want to engage in.”
Telling the truth and treating others as you would want to be treated in your healed mind is an expression of love for both self and others.
Shame and fear and a lack of self love keep people stuck in patterns that cause harm, including:
Addiction is not a moral failure.
Addiction is a call for love, by seeking outside of yourself for comfort.
Self-love is the way out of addiction, unhealthy relational patterns, self-harm, and financial insecurity.
As perception heals and self-regulation increases, addictive patterns naturally loosen.
Things, money, status, and experiences do not give you worth.
Valuing the valueless creates suffering, reinforces feelings of not having enough, and destabilizes emotional and financial wellbeing.
Worth is inherent, not earned.
Negative assumptions are always false.
Everyone is doing the best in each moment with their current level of awareness, healing, knowledge, experience, and perspective.
This understanding deepens compassion, and dissolves judement for self and others
Our best gets better with love, compassion and gentle correction.
Attack of self or others is not a good motivator for long term change.
When making a decision, ask:
You do not know what is in your or others’ best interest.
Take loving action within your control, then trust and surrender to a larger plan.
Not being on the path of peace and healing is part of the path toward choosing it.
Thoughts, emotions, and actions that bring you deep peace are aligned with truth.
Thoughts, emotions, and actions that cause suffering require gentle questioning and correction.
This discernment is a skill that is practiced and refined over time.
There is nothing you have to do.
Nothing you ought to do.
Nothing you should do.
The Healed Mind asks:
What do you want to do?
What feels most loving?
What is most loving for you (treating others how you want to be treated and treating yourself how you would treat others when in a healed place- is the most loving choice for you)
Take action within your control.
Accept, trust and surrender what is not in your control.
Everything is happening for you and for your best interest- same goes for others.
There is nothing outside of you that is separate from your internal state.
How you perceive others reflects how you perceive yourself, and how others perceive you reflects how they perceive themselves.
A mind grounded in love and compassion will naturally see love and compassion in the world.
A mind rooted in attack, guilt, or shame will perceive attack, guilt, and shame in others.
When others judge or attack you, it reflects unhealed judgment or attack within them.
When others are compassionate and gentle with you, it reflects compassion and gentleness they hold toward themselves.
People project their inner world outward.
You project your psychology onto others, and others project their psychology onto you. This projection is not personal — it is perceptual.
You are not responsible for what others project, but you are responsible for what you project.
Healing occurs when projection is replaced with awareness, compassion, and truth.
Authenticity is the ability to tell the truth about who you are and be exactly where you are, without guilt, shame, or self-attack.
Loving behavior without loving thought is not authenticity — it is performance.
When someone acts loving but does not hold loving thoughts toward themselves, the dissonance causes inner conflict and suffering.
Lying, pretending, or masking one’s internal state harms only the self. Truth is self-protective.
Healing does not require appearing loving — it requires becoming honest.
When we love ourselves we dont lie about who we are- this gives others space to do the same and build intimacy in relationships.